How To Be A Nice Guy (And Still Meet Women)!
From Jeff Cohen,
The following article, How to Be a Nice Guy (And Still Meet
Women), is a guest article, submitted by Joseph Matthews,
author of "Art of Approaching."
Have you ever heard that old familiar lament: "Nice
Guys Finish Last, Jerks Get Laid?"
At first glance, it would seem that is true. There are a
lot of Jerks out there who are able to attract tons and tons
of women. And there are a lot of Nice Guys who struggle with
meeting girls, and feel frustrated. After all, who wants to
have to be a jerk in order to meet women?
Here's the thing...
YOU DON'T HAVE TO BE A JERK TO MEET WOMEN!
You just have to change a few things you tend to be "nice"
about.
For instance:
Social Restrictions
We tend to believe that there are "acceptable" and
"unacceptable" things to do around women. And while
this is true to some extent, Nice Guys are often wrong about
the limits of what is acceptable. Like being sexual around
women. Many Nice Guys believe this is "inappropriate
behavior." But that's wrong!
Being sexual around a woman is a very powerful way of communicating
your interest in her. Little things like flirting and joking
about sex can go a long way into making you a potential lover
instead of just a potential "friend."
Inability To Act
Too often, "Nice Guys" wait around for the girl
to make the first move to initiate romance. This is a DEADLY
mistake! Women take their cues from the men they're with.
If you want to escalate into a physical relationship, you
have to be the one to make the first move. This can be scary.
It's possible to get rejected. But if you don't do it, you
won't succeed!
Actions speak louder than words, and if you allow yourself
to act and go in for a kiss, or not be afraid to touch her,
then you communicate all the right things...Things like aggressiveness,
confidence, and sexuality -- all things women find irresistibly
attractive!
Diarrhea Of The Mouth
Way too many Nice Guys like to talk about boring stuff. They
do nothing to captivate the girl. Their stories don't inspire
romance or attraction. In short: Nice Guys are neutered! The
real trick with women is to be playful! Have fun with them!
Crack jokes. Tease them. Have a good time.
Show her a little bit of attention instead of focusing on
yourself -- but don't take yourself for granted either! If
you just talk, and talk, and talk without knowing what you're
saying, you're going to bore the girl you're with. And girls
who are bored with you will not be attracted to you.
If you look at the three points above, you can see that the
Jerks who get all the women do these things. BUT, Nice guys
can do them too, and not have to act like a complete jerk
to do them! You can still be the Nice Guy you've always been,
but just change three simple tactics and see a drastic improvement
in your success with women.
Here's a recent success story I got from a Nice Guy who followed
my advice...
Dude, your stuff works!
I went out last night and took the lead much more. Also,
thinking of what you told me, I pressed forward on every sexual
innuendo opening that popped up. It is amazing how quickly
girls opened up. I ended up talking to this guy and the two
girls with him about hotel porn and the fact that everybody,
including women, watches it (something I'd never thought I'd
talk to women about before).
We talked about Michael Ninn and porn with real storylines
and started dreaming up porn careers for ourselves. Anyway,
long story short, when they closed the club we ended up at
his place nearby; nice and big with a Japanese garden. We
joked around and the girls did stupid dances to the indian
electronica that was playing and eventually at like four a.m.
we paired off. I just got back!
That is the quickest result I have had yet and it was fun
to be so open. Thanks! R. (recovering Nice Guy)
As you can see This information is truly lethal stuff. Just
imagine the possibilities when you start applying these strategies
yourself. You'll be meeting women in no time. Or, you could
stick with your current game plan and have to be happy with
your results right now.
To learn more about Joseph Matthews, visit his website at
www.artofapproaching.com.
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