How to Date Casually
From: dating.suite101.com
By: Cherie Burbach
Slow Down Your Dating Life and Find Love
Change your ideas about finding a relationship and still
have fun being single. Here's how.
Remember fun?
That’s what dating is supposed to be.
For most singles, it was fun, at some point. But as time
goes on the notion of finding your soul mate can seem like
a pressure filled, full-time job. However, it doesn’t
have to be that way.
Definition of a Date
Perhaps the best way to improve your love life is to remember
what a date is supposed to be. It involves going out with
someone. Out, as in, to a public place where you sit and talk
or have a bite to eat. Dating involves coffee dates as opposed
to going to your date’s house (even if they want to cook
you dinner or snuggle up for a night of DVDs).
Dating Does Not Equal Relationships
Dating is not the same as having a relationship. When you
date someone casually there should be no sexual intimacy or
heavy physical contact until you’re ready to start up
a relationship. There should also be no talk about “the
future” in any concrete sense or thinking about what
the person would be like as a spouse or parent.
Dating, in other words, is simple. It involves getting to
know someone slowly, over time. Seeing him or her in different
situations. When the two of you continue to click, you keep
going out on dates. You do this until you both decide you
want to start up a relationship.
Casual Dating Means Different People
Until you are absolutely certain you want to date one person
and only one, keep dating several people. Again, this does
not mean you sleep with several people. It means you have
platonic involvement with each and every person you date until
you want to date one specific person solely. Until you have
a conversation with your love interest about exclusivity,
however, assume your partner is also casually meeting other
people.
Dating is Slow and Sweet
By dating at a slower, sweeter, more innocent pace you and
your dates will get to know each other much better than if
you’d each tried to force a relationship into forming.
Every time you sleep with someone too fast or think in terms
of “the future” rather than getting to know your
date in the present it can cloud your judgment about what
the person is really like.
The benefit of this relaxed type of dating is that you’ll
probably have more options than you did before. Instead of
trying to force a situation you already know isn’t going
to work, you walk away from it confident in the knowledge
that you’ve got another date lined up next week. Most
of all, regardless of how old you are or how long you’ve
been single, you’ll end up with a better relationship
with it’s all said and done.
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