Dating Expert, Stephany Alexander, Reveals the Top 20 Do’s
and Don’ts of Dating Rules
By Stephany Alexander
 As
a dating expert who has given dating advice to tens of thousands
of people since early 2000, there are 20 basic Do’s and
Don’t Rules in the world of dating to help you increase
your chances of succeeding in dating. Dating can be fun and
exciting but getting involved with the wrong person can destroy
your life. How do you put the odds in your favor when dating?
I have broken down the top 20 Rules of Dating to help you
find that special person.
TOP 10 DATING DO’S.
1. Do relax and have fun. Dating is supposed to be fun so
make it fun. Choose activities that you both love so you can
relax, laugh and enjoy. If you think dating is miserable,
then don’t do it.
2. Do groom yourself before your date. Make sure you are
freshly showered, have fresh breath and have an outfit on
that flatters you. Save your crazy or overly sexy outfits
for when you get to know the person better.
3. Do Listen. Listening is more important than talking. Ask
your date lots of questions and hone in on similar interests.
Don’t brag about yourself constantly because that is
the ultimate turn-off.
4. Compliment your date. If you think your date looks nice,
say so. Don’t focus on your date’s imperfections;
focus on their good points. If it looks like your date took
time to get ready, compliment them by letting them know.
5. Be positive. Don’t complain on your date. Nobody
wants to hear how miserable you are. A poor attitude can destroy
a date faster than anything.
6. Be honest and upfront. If the date didn’t click,
tell your partner that you will have to think about it and
that you will contact them again if you are interested.
7. Be proactive. You need to take the initiative to meet
people to date. Practice flirting, smile, be friendly and
make eye contact. This will show people you are available
and will increase your chances of being asked out.
8. Do date creatively. Don’t go to the movies where
you can’t talk or get to know your date better. Go to
dinner, bowling and then a movie or go horseback riding, hiking
or to an arts or music festival.
9. Do let your friends and family know you are dating. You
never know when someone you know may try playing matchmaker
for you. It may or may not work out but you should be open
to meeting someone new.
10. Do be polite and have manners. Offer to pay for all or
half of the date even if you are a woman. Say “please”
and “thank you” and be respectful of the other person’s
feelings.
10 DATING RULE DON’TS
1. Don’t be late for a date. Make sure you leave early
enough to deal with traffic delays or other things that could
delay you. Being late shows that you don’t respect the
other person’s time and sets the date off on the wrong
foot.
2. Don’t chase someone. Don’t phone, text or email
them more than once a day unless you are in a conversation
with them and they are replying. Being desperate is a huge
turn off.
3. Don’t date people who you think will use you. If
you have money, don’t tell the other person. If a man
comes on too strong for sex early on, shut him down and move
on. You want someone who wants you for you, not what you can
do for them or give them. Once they get what they want, they’ll
move on to their next target.
4. Don’t lie to your date. Don’t over exaggerate
your income, education or what you do. These lies will eventually
come out and then you will appear as a dishonest loser.
5. Don’t come on too strong. If you are anxious to get
married right away, that’s okay. However, constantly
talking about serious commitment issues such as marriage and
children on a first date can scare your date away.
6. Don’t sit around and wait for his or her call. Stay
busy. There is nothing more pathetic than someone who immediately
drops their life or routine for someone they just met. Your
goal is to have a fulfilled life that another person can add
to.
7. Don’t get drunk or use drugs on your date. What kind
of an impression are you making if you are incoherent when
you first meet? Your date will think you are like that with
all people.
8. Don’t flirt with others while on a date. This may
seem like common sense but nothing will end your date faster
than you hitting on your date’s friend.
9. Don’t have sex with someone until you have dated
a while. A while does not mean 1 or 2 dates. If it was meant
to be, it will be and part of the fun of dating is the thrill
of the chase.
10. Don’t give out too much personal information on
a first date. Keep your home address and telephone number
confidential until you get to know your date better and make
sure you always meet in a public place.
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